YEARS AGO I HAD AN ARGUMENT WITH A FRIEND OVER SOME ISSUES OF MORALITY - OR HER LACK OF MORALS. ANYWAY, IN A BID TO PUT AN END TO THE LENGTHY ARGUMENT SHE SAID ' IN LIFE, CHILI, THERE ARE NO BLACKS AND WHITES, JUST SHADES OF GREY'. IT WAS THE FIRST TIME I HAD HEARD THAT ANALYSIS, BUT I WOULD STRUGGLE TO DISPROVE IT, FOR EVER.
The Return of The Condiment
Guess who's back? A lot of water has gone under the bridge, so much that I , Chili Pepa have given birth to a little chili. Yes o, I am a mummy now. How did this happen? Watch this space.
I have to tell this story or else God might become angry with me. It was a rather funny and nice incident that occured at Easter, and just when I had given up on the individual in question.
If you live in Nigeria you already know that we had a loooooong weekend last week. I was so looking forward to it because I needed sleep like mad. So on Friday I did nothing but sleep all day. On Saturday my plan was to get my house cleaned and then sleep some more. Those plans were interrupted by a phone call from my darling Snuffy. He started by accusing me of abandoning him and not taking care of him, saying he was ill and I didn't even bother to ask him how he was feeling, blah, blah, blah. I reminded him that it was possible that I had given up on him. That launched another long monologue after which he asked what my plans were and invited me to 'come out'. At first I shrugged that statement off and continued rambling on. He said it again and caught my attention. Where d…
That was the name I knew her by until I was 32.
We always called our maternal aunties by their children's names.
Even they did it too.
So she never really had an identity until I was an adult.
I didn't like her as a child, I thought she was always angry, she never seemed to laugh.
It wasn't really a frown, the expression on her face;
It was the absence of a smile.
And a reason for it.
Mouth turned downwards at the sides, almost permanently,
Eyebrows slightly creased, eyes unlit.
Decades later, I realised it was not a frown, it was an expression of resignation;
As much as is possible on the face.
She had been a pregnant teen and lost out on education with her siblings. She had then become deeply religious and married a faithful but poor man And had 5 more children, only one of whom was successful In the way parents counted success. Then the man had fallen gravely ill Exhausting all medical and spiritual options And all financial resources And died Life ha…